Relationship & Life Coaching
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Old Wisdom
New Skills
What brought you here today?
You came here because you want to change course, for your relationships and your life. The old way hasn't been working so well, and you think you can do better and live better. You don’t want therapy because you aren't impaired. You want someone to help you figure things out and make changes.
You've come to the right place.
I am a psychotherapist, but this is not therapy
If you are tired of therapy—tired of being told something is wrong with you—this will be a relief.​​​ We won't be doing a clinical evaluation, creating a symptom profile, or arriving at a diagnosis. There won't be a treatment plan, progress notes, or a discharge summary.
It also is not a “Six Weeks To A New You!” program
Those are helpful for some people. But this is not that.​​​
So, what is this?
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A quiet place for understanding
Your relationships and your life
And finding a better way forward
Issues I help people with:
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“It’s all my fault."
Probably not true. Let’s sort through it to see what you should take responsibility for and what you can leave on the table for someone else to handle.
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“It’s all their fault.”
Also probably not true. You have agency and play a part in how your life is today, and how it can be in the future.
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“I have trouble with relationship conflict, commitment, and trust.”
There probably are good reasons for that. You don’t have to stay stuck.
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“My partner has the same issues with conflict, commitment, and trust.”
Figuring out why they are that way is not your job; deciding what to do, however, is definitely your job.
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“My job sucks and my boss is as dumb as a box of rocks.”
That happens. Attitude adjustment can help, but it may not be enough. What then?
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“I'm paranoid—but it does feel like they are out to get me.”
Almost everyone has gotten into that anxious and fearful place at one time or another. Let’s assess it and determine if you really need to armor up.
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“I keep making the same f***ing mistake over and over.”
It's frustrating to repeat a pattern that you don't like. But it doesn’t have to be permanent. Change is possible.
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We will talk through what you can do to get different results and a better life.
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How I'll Help You
​This is active listening that leads to change. It creates a space for you to bring out things you’ve been thinking but can't discuss with others. Some thoughts are too private, or scary, or "unacceptable," to discuss with the people in your life.
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You can talk about them here.
Sometimes when I talk to my friends, they'll ask me, "Are you therapizing me?" No, I'm not. I'm just listening—closely. For some people, it's a new experience.
I'll help you step back, look at your life with fresh eyes, see the patterns, and figure out how to make changes.
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And if you need to say something that doesn't require a response, that just needs to be heard—I'll hear it.